Ideas and guidance
Articles for understanding, reflection and change
Practical insights from counsellors across Aotearoa, written to help you make sense of what you are experiencing.
Te Wetekina — The Loosing – A Companion Tool for When Strongholds Block the Autophagy Process
What if the most important healing you ever do is not for yourself,But for the generations who come after you?This companion tool sits alongside your monthly Dimensional Autophagy workbook. It is not reading material — it is a practice tool. Pick it up when a pattern won’t shift.
Your Body Already Knows How to Heal. But Healing Isn’t What You Think It Is
Understanding Dimensional AutophagyYour body has a secret.When you fast — when you give your cells space from the constant work of digestion — something remarkable happens. Your body doesn’t just rest. It cleans house.This process is called autophagy, from the Greek meaning ‘self-eating.’ Your cells break down damaged proteins, clear out toxic waste, recycle what…
I feel like a failure
If you’ve ever had the thought “I’m a failure.” Read this. Maybe it will help.
The Night the Moon Stopped the Urge – How the Maramataka became the backbone of a 90-day wellness programme
This structure I call the 90-Day Engine, the Maramataka integration —all of it—didn’t come from a whiteboard session or a literature review. It came from a determination to complete an alcohol-free period, where I found myself struggling to stick to that fasting period. Then, suddenly, in the second week, it seemed to be a lot…
Te Maramataka — The Temporal Spine of Te Poutama o te Ora – Living by the Moon
How the Maramataka — the Māori lunar calendar — gives Te Poutama o te Ora its heartbeatBefore clocks. Before timetables. Before the five-day work week carved up our lives into uniform chunks, there was the moon.For Māori, the moon was not simply a light in the sky. It was a teacher, a calendar, a health…
I Believed in God — But Was I Allowed To? – A Māori Christian’s Journey Through the Whakapapa Dilemma, Religious Trauma, and the Cave That Changed Everything
I did not lose my faith. I lost the colonised version of faith that had been used to wound my wairua.
Building Kaha • Steps 1–3 – Are You a Starter, Middler, or Finisher?
Find Out Before You Choose Your 18-Day PracticeMōrena e hoa mā. Let me ask you something before we get into the 18-day practice plan.Have you ever started a wellness habit full of energy — and then quietly abandoned it around Day 5 or 6, not because you didn’t care, but because something about the approach…
Not Māori Enough. Not Pākehā Enough – The Brown Pākehā
The Double Exile, and Why You’re Not Broken — You’re ColonisedI want to tell you about a particular kind of loneliness. The loneliness of being surrounded by people in two different worlds and belonging fully to neither of them.For a long time, I thought this was my personal failure. A character flaw. Some essential inadequacy…
Introducing Today’s Alignment – A Daily Maramataka + TPO Rhythm Experience
Kia ora koutou,Over recent months, I have been quietly developing a new part of the IAnTeMo Counselling journey — a living daily rhythm experience integrating Maramataka and Te Poutama o te Ora (TPO), my nine-dimensional wellness framework.
Taha Auaha — The Passage of Freedom – What If Your Creativity Is Not Just About Art?
The Healing Dimension of Creative ExpressionKo te auaha te ara e tukuna ai ngā kōrero o te whatumanawa.Creativity is the pathway through which the stories of the heart find release.
Before the First Breath – The Tapu of the Whare Tangata and What We Lost When We Forgot
There is a world that exists before a life is born.A threshold. A held space between what is and what is becoming.Our tūpuna knew this. They built everything around it.
The Whakapapa of a Wound – Series Introduction – The Wound that Carries
Humble Beginnings:Matapihi Kirihou – The founding backstory of Te Poutama o te OraThe plastic windows were never just plastic.They covered what glass couldn’t be afforded. They let in light, but not clearly. And they were the beginning of a backstory that travels forward — into bodies, into relationships, into the homes our children grow up…
