Ideas and guidance
Articles for understanding, reflection and change
Practical insights from counsellors across Aotearoa, written to help you make sense of what you are experiencing.
What Your Descendants Will Thank You For – The moment the healing becomes ancestral â and what you declare forward from here
The gifts my grandparents gave me.Grandad, an Anglican minister and healer, was strong in his faith. He passed before I was born; however, as a child, I remember stories about his importance to the community. God became the redemption story for that ministry. Nan was also impacted by the Tohunga Suppression Act that made her…
Anxiety – 10 Powerful Methods to Overcome
A look at how anxiety may become a disorder and what you can do to worry less.
Relationship Goal: Improve your relationship now with these 5 goals.
What are your relationship goals? Deciding on your goals when you are 16 years old canbe different from what you will need as a 25-year-old or 40 years old. Ourviews on a relationship can change over time. Each of us has our idea of how arelationship could be. However, that is often very different to…
From Wai MÄori to Waipiro: The Colonial Wound Beneath the Wine Glass
There is a man in the counselling room who does not have a drinking problem.He is not violent. He does not drink to excess. He has not passed his father’s or grandfather’s patterns down to his children. By every visible measure, the wound has stopped. And yet â every evening, almost without thinking, he reaches…
Parenting Counselling Online
An overview of parenting in the areas of behaviour and development. Positive reinforcement by giving your child compliments and rewards and how this will outperform punishments in the long term.
Relationship roadblocks: 12 ways of communication that are harmful to your relationship.
Relationship roadblocks are the barriers that dampen or stop the flow of communication between couples. Roadblocks can cause further tension in a relationship. The stress can quickly trickle through to other aspects of our lives when not addressed. It can make people feel unsupported when they are not validated by voicing their concerns.
The Wound That Became the Work
What happens when you stop surviving your wound and start metabolising itThere is a difference between surviving a wound and metabolising it.Surviving means the wound is still whole inside you â managed, adapted to, worked around â but fundamentally intact. Metabolising means the wound has been broken down into its components. What was useful has…
Anger Management
An article about anger management to help you better deal with trigger points and outward behaviours.
SFBT- Solution-Focused Brief Therapy: Understand five techniques primarily used in Solution Focused Brief Therapy.
Solution-focused brief therapy â A talk therapy that emphasizes the client’s present and desirable future rather than their past experiences. The role of the counsellor or the therapist is to listen, select and build. Clients are experts of their circumstances. They have the solutions and need the space and time to examine their existing toolbox.
The River That Remembers – Why healing Colonisation PTSD requires the body â not just the mind
Better Communication
In this article I hope to improve your communication by teaching you the Communication Model, Communication Barriers, how to improve your attending & questioning behaviours when in conversation.  Â
Anxiety Disorder: Learn 7 strategies you can use to reduce anxiety during Christmas and New Year break.
Learn seven strategies to cope with the festivities this year. The need toachieve better life satisfaction becomes more significant during festive season. Itusually results in high anxiety levels due to financial and emotional stress. Having high anxiety and stress can lead to a sleep deficit. Lack of sleep can easily lead to depression.Â