Guidance Counselling

This structure I call the 90-Day Engine, the Maramataka integration —all of it—didn’t come from a whiteboard session or a literature review. It came from a determination to complete an alcohol-free period, where I found myself struggling to stick to that fasting period. Then, suddenly, in the second week, it seemed to be a lot easier.

That shift is where Te Ara o te 90 Rā was born.

How the Maramataka — the Māori lunar calendar — gives Te Poutama o te Ora its heartbeat

Before clocks. Before timetables. Before the five-day work week carved up our lives into uniform chunks, there was the moon.

For Māori, the moon was not simply a light in the sky. It was a teacher, a calendar, a health guide, and a spiritual companion. The system built around its cycles is called the Maramataka, and it has guided people in Aotearoa for centuries — telling them when to plant, when to fish, when to gather and celebrate, and when to rest.

Today, the Maramataka is looked to for that guidance again. In developing Te Poutama o te Ora, consideration is being given to its role within that wellness framework. The Maramataka does not sit alongside the work as an add-on. Instead, it weaves within the whole model, like a heartbeat beneath skin. It is what we call the temporal spine: the living rhythm that gives the framework its movement across time.

The Maramataka does not ask us to do more. It asks us to do the right thing at the right time.

I did not lose my faith. I lost the colonised version of faith that had been used to wound my wairua.

Find Out Before You Choose Your 18-Day Practice

Mōrena e hoa mā. Let me ask you something before we get into the 18-day practice plan.

Have you ever started a wellness habit full of energy — and then quietly abandoned it around Day 5 or 6, not because you didn’t care, but because something about the approach just didn’t fit how you work?

If that sounds familiar, this is the post for you.

The Double Exile, and Why You’re Not Broken — You’re Colonised

I want to tell you about a particular kind of loneliness. The loneliness of being surrounded by people in two different worlds and belonging fully to neither of them.

For a long time, I thought this was my personal failure. A character flaw. Some essential inadequacy in me meant I would always be slightly too much in one direction and not enough in another.

It took me a long time — and a forced stop, courtesy of a redundancy I didn’t choose — to understand that this experience had a name, and that name is not failure. It is the double exile. It was done to me, and to many of us, by a system that has never fully reckoned with what it took.

Kia ora koutou,

Over recent months, I have been quietly developing a new part of the IAnTeMo Counselling journey — a living daily rhythm experience integrating Maramataka and Te Poutama o te Ora (TPO), my nine-dimensional wellness framework.

The Healing Dimension of Creative Expression

There is a world that exists before a life is born.

A threshold. A held space between what is and what is becoming.

Our tūpuna knew this. They built everything around it.

Humble Beginnings:

Matapihi Kirihou – The founding backstory of Te Poutama o te Ora

The plastic windows were never just plastic.

They covered what glass couldn’t be afforded. They let in light, but not clearly. And they were the beginning of a backstory that travels forward — into bodies, into relationships, into the homes our children grow up in, and sometimes into the arms of experiences, others and systems that step in when those homes become unsafe.